Self-help

A mixture of love and hostility toward our intimates is a fact of psychic life, but difficult for most of us to acknowledge and tolerate.

Basic shame is the awareness, often unconscious, that we are emotionally damaged. This article discusses how the excruciating experience of being broken or damaged leads to certain defensive and avoidant behaviors to escape from it.

Projection is an ordinary part of our psychic life. This article discusses the phenomenon and enlarges our understanding of what “projecting” actually means.

Most people don’t change, they just become more the way they already are.

Defense mechanisms are lies we tell ourselves to ward off painful truths